I first came across Stella Cunliffe a few weeks ago and I cannot stop thinking about her. She had a life worthy of a film, and I feel pretty inadequate when reading about her long, long list of achievements and notable moments in life. I don’t know why it took me so long to learn about her, but better late than never.
Any one of the things she accomplished in life would mark her out as pretty special, but her work after the liberation of Belsen has stuck with me. I watched a documentary which featured the sculptor Maurice Blik talking about the death of his baby sister in the camp. It is one of millions of heartbreaking stories. I feel like a coward saying that I couldn’t listen to the whole story. I have only so much brain space at the moment and I just couldn’t do it. And watching Maurice made me think of Stella.
Stella wasn’t like me. She went to work. She didn’t switch off. She kept going. And even afterwards, she went on to do so very many admirable things. She sounds like a giant of a woman, someone I’m telling myself to be more like. She seems like a woman who didn’t wallow, or waste her hours on unproductive fripperies. Her life story reads as though she didn’t have half enough spare time, yet got more done than I can ever dream of.
This week, I, in my own rather pathetic way, am trying to be a little more like Stella. I have small, petty goals for the days and weeks ahead. I’ve accomplished a few of them, and I have mixed feelings.
I feel ashamed sometimes, at how I lack resilience and how I don’t appreciate what I have. I feel ashamed, sometimes, that I think getting through another day, in my lovely big house where we have all the food we need and boredom can be the biggest challenge, is a cause for celebration. I feel ashamed, sometimes, that I’m not more like Stella, and all the other women I have never heard of, who went to work and didn’t need to congratulate themselves on making it through another hour, or day, or week.
I am not Stella. I am not very brave. I complain too much. I waste time. I think about myself a bit too often. But maybe I can channel a fraction of her energy, and do better.